Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.” – John 8: 10-11
God’s ability to clean things up is infinitely greater than our ability to mess things up
– Tullian Tchividjian
Let’s talk about sex.
Throughout the Bible, God does not mince words about His desire for us to be sexually pure. Infact, in His analogies about Israel’s idolatry, He always referred to Israel are playing the prostitute with other nations. Solomon also advised his readers in his proverbs against strange women and advised them to be satisfied with their wives.
As Christians, sexual purity is not negotiable. And sexual immorality is not limited to just the act of sexual penetration. Sexual sin starts the moment the lustful thought is conceived. Jesus said any man who looks at a woman with lustful eyes has already committed adultery with her in his heart. In the Old Testament Mosaic Law, the penalty for adultery was death by stoning. However, the fact that we’re in a new era of grace does not mean that we should take God’s laws for granted.
As an aside, our sexual purity is for our own good. When we are celibate, God gives us clarity of purpose. We also are able to pray concerning our partners, without our emotions being muddled up. We enjoy fellowship with the Holy Spirit because we have not defiled God’s Temple.
The New Testament offers us a few references on purity:
- Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. – 1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV
- Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. – Hebrews 13:4 ESV
- Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. – Galatians 5:19-21 ESV
- Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.- Romans 12:2 ESV
- “Food is meant for the stomach and the stomach for food”—and God will destroy both one and the other. The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. – 1 Corinthians 6:13 ESV
While we may feel condemned, we must never forget that Jesus’ immediate response to the adulterous woman was to go and sin no more. So while we may feel battered and ashamed about our past sexual experiences, God is calling us to start afresh and anew, if we’re willing to surrender our sexuality to Him.
Finally, it is important that while we strive to live a life that God approves of, we must surround ourselves with people and things that will help us on our journey to live a life that God approves of. This is why Paul enjoined the Philippians to set their minds on pure and honorable things.
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honourable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”